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“The greater the CONTRAST, the greater the POTENTIAL.
Great energy only comes from a correspondingly great tension of opposites.”
~ Carl Jung
We often strive to live in the light, seeking happiness, love, and peace- this seems to be the human condition. We are always looking for the next thing to make us happy. However, the truth is, we cannot truly know light without darkness. It is the duality of Yin and Yang, and the internal conflict that comes from not accepting this part of ourselves keeps us in a place of chaos and uncertainty.
Within each of us exists a shadow self- the part of us that holds fear, anger, shame, and the wounds from our past conditioning that we try to ignore. Society teaches us to suppress these feelings, to distract ourselves, or to “think positive” and push them away. But real healing doesn’t come from avoidance, it comes from feeling and awareness.
The shadow self is not something to fear. It is a teacher, revealing where we need to bring compassion and understanding. What we resist persists. Where we send our thoughts, our energy follows. When we resist our darker emotions, they grow stronger and last longer, manifesting as anxiety, self-sabotage, or physical tension.
We must remember that nothing is permanent. There will always be waves coming to shore- some larger than others, so our challenge is to find our centre, stay grounded, and trust that we are never given more than we can handle. “This too shall pass” is one of my favourite sayings because it reminds me to be fully present, knowing that I am always safe and that I have the capacity to surf the waves of life, so long as I don’t take them personally!
Instead of resisting the shadow self, we can choose to become the observer, allowing our feelings to surface, acknowledging them without judgment, and letting them pass through us like waves in the ocean, coming and going without attachment.
Unless we allow ourselves to truly feel and process emotions from the deeper parts of the mind and body, where our energy is stored, they will often return. If we rely solely on the old paradigm of distraction or try to “understand and analyse from the conscious mind,” we may gain insight, but not true healing.
Even when we attend workshops, read self-help books, or engage in talk therapy, we are often only working with the intellect. Healing requires more than just understanding, it requires embodiment.
Grounding practices such as breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and 5-PATH® Hypnotherapy allow us to feel and release emotions at a core level. When we are in the eye of the storm, observing, rather than being swept up in the chaos, we can recover more quickly. We become one with the storm but return to harmony with ease, rather than looping back into reactive patterns that continue to resurface over a lifetime.
When we honour both our shadow and our light, we find true balance. Wholeness is not about being only “good” or “positive.” It’s about embracing all that we are, with awareness and grace. This is how we break the cycle of being triggered and reactive, becoming more centred and accepting of ourselves and others. This is how we heal and begin to choose how we respond to life, living with greater consciousness and intention.
So next time the shadow rises, don’t run from it. Sit with it. Witness it. And know that, like all things, it will pass, leaving you stronger, wiser, and more whole than before.
“We work in the dark to serve the light.” 
Namasté,
Carol xo 
